A long awaited update….

The past 5 weeks….

It’s been over 5 weeks since I’ve sat down and wrote. Boy, my heart and head needs this outlet. But how? How does mommy find the time? How does Rachel find the time?

Well for one, I’ve started this post one-handed while rocking a baby to sleep, the twins are coloring (hopefully just their papers – FYI, they colored their table) and Sesame Street is on. And realistically it might take several start and stops just to get it finished but that’s life these days.

So here’s a little update!

The twins: Well, now the twins are 2 years old! How did that happen?! We celebrated their birthday the first weekend of October. Right after their birthday we’ve been battling sickness: respiratory, ear infections, and nasty colds for all! I think we are finally on the mend there. They’ve continued to adjust well to their sister which is such a blessing. I really don’t think we’ve dealt with outbursts related to her, specifically. But they are 2 and boy, dealing with their own developmental growing pains can be particularly frustrating for Nick and me. I feel like some days the words of the day are NO, DON’T DO THAT, STOP TOUCHING THAT, QUIT CLIMBING, STOP HITTING, SAY SORRY, YOU’RE IN TIMEOUT, etc. Then other days I just tell them they will get hurt if they do X, Y, and Z and walk away praying they don’t actually get hurt. But just some days natural consequences are the best teachers. Right? Two 2 year olds are no joke and not for the faint of heart. Then couple a trying day with the twins with a fussy, refuses to sleep baby and you’ve got a recipe for wine by 5 o’clock or a Grand Gold Margarita from Pappasitos, especially if it’s a Wednesday (if I’m not so exhausted by then and I usually am). The best thing we did was give them this small playhouse for our backyard for their birthday! Now with the weather cooling down, we are using it more and more, like today.

Nick: He is so busy at work! David Weekley Homes keeps him busy but he was a champ altering his schedule while I was on c section restriction. It was a tough 6 weeks but we made it thanks to our tribe! My sister and my mom continually step up to the plate for us which we will always be so grateful for!

Madison: She is so amazing! It only took us 7 weeks to discover that she’s a tad caffeine sensitive so overall she’s sleeping much better during the day. She usually gets up just once at night, sometimes twice. Overall the girl gets a medal for giving us the best transition to a family of 5 as possible.

Then there’s me: Juggling the kids on my own is tough. I tell my mom I don’t know how she did it with seemingly effortless grace when I’m here feeling like a basket case. But isn’t that how it goes? I don’t remember my mom being super frazzled 24/7 but I do remember her being there. That’s what I want my kids to remember: me being there. I’ve officially been taking over taking the boys to school by 8am Tuesday and Thursday and picking them up by 3pm! I happy to report the latest we’ve been late was by 20 minutes! Other days we’ve been right on time and I’ve been on time for pick up! Talk about a mom win! 🙌🏻

I’ve been finally able to start working out and I’ve stayed pretty dedicated to getting back into the swing of things (slowly) and staying consistent. I’ve been really working on my eating and that’s stayed fairly consistent as well. I’m 7 weeks postpartum and down almost 25 pounds with about 50 more to go to pre-pregnancy weight. 😳 Can’t believe I just wrote that but it’s true. I would preferably like it to be gone by my sister’s wedding at the end of February so will keep you updated on the progress. I believe switching up my workouts and continually working on better eating habits will help me!

In other news and to slide into your prayers, I’ve also continued to have some postpartum bleeding complications. I feel like I’m finally on a road to getting some resolution but it’s been overall frustrating and stressful as I know this is not the normal progression after having a baby. I don’t want to go into super detail here but if you’re curious, feel free to message me!

Overall, life with 3 under 3 is so incredibly challenging.

So let me answer some of the most asked questions:

1. How is it taking care of one baby? EASY! And it helps she’s pretty laid back. But I rarely just have the baby so it’s still hard! Haha

2. How do you do it? LOTS AND LOTS OF THE SERENITY PRAYER but in all seriousness, you just do.

My side note to these questions: the twins are and probably will be constantly be challenging as we have two in the same developmental stage of life but definitely not two of the same people. It’s incredibly challenging and really, so much fun. But as they are learning to communicate more and more, things are getting “easier” but when that communication breaks down – SERENITY PRAYER IT UP because that’s all that’s going to save you!

3 under 3 is the way to be, 😂😂

Rachel

 

Are you a super mom?

Mom memes and more

So, it’s been another busy week…. does it ever slow down? I’m thinking not especially when you are actively adding humans to the human race. 🙂 Anyway, I was fixin’ to sit at my computer in desperate need to blog today and I thought SUPER MOMS. What are super moms anyway? Does it mean we get everything done on our to-do list? Dinner is ready? Home cooked? Everyone showered? And have a smile on our face? Is it all of the above? Is it some but not all? Seems like so much pressure. Haha. I mean I’m sure there are tons of different types of super moms but society has their own way to dictate what a super mom is so let’s explore that.

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I love this meme. The reason I love it is because I’m not sure any one of these pictures is really realistic, yet there are many moms who can see themselves in one of these 6 images. If you take out the caption, it is actually a great representation of the many looks of motherhood. It doesn’t encompass everything but it’s a good start. However, my look of motherhood, tends to stay in the bottom right corner image. CRAP everywhere! 

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And in the midst of writing this blog – this is my view. Yep. Real life people. No, I don’t clean up after my kids until the END OF THE DAY. WHY WASTE YOUR TIME PEOPLE? It’s going to get messed up after the nap so as long as I have a walkway, I’m good! (And yes, I’m catching up on Pretty Little Liars) Ha! Plus I am way too busy to pick up toys all the time. But more power to you if you like to do that.

Anyway back to the meme, well, I don’t really know what my friends think I do. But life at home, now running two direct sales businesses, being pregnant with the BEST PREGNANCY EVER (sense the sarcasm), and whatever else is going on isn’t easy. I have to fit as many things in ONE nap session and I usually don’t know how long it will last. #momlife But then, I think about my working mom friends – WHOA! I do NOT know how they do that! I tried for a short second working part time out of the house and immediately hated it. It’s just not for me and we are blessed by being able to make some ends meet while I’m home. Either choice isn’t easy. Either choice comes with sacrifices and I honestly believe comparing these choices isn’t healthy and it’s downright petty. It doesn’t matter in the real scheme of things. #momsunite

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But regardless, I think MOST of us moms definitely have starts and finishes to these days described above pretty regularly – as long as we didn’t have a bad night, that is. HA! I can’t help but laugh because my days DEFINITELY look like this. I think many of us start off as super moms but end like Cruella! LOL! If you don’t have a Cruella day, well, more power to you and I probably won’t believe you, especially if you have any age kids in the house.

I feel like I’m more like this mom meme coming up next.

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This one literally had me laughing out loud. I mean I have some friends that don’t censor their language around their kids. I don’t know how I really feel about it BUT their philosophy is that they are teaching their kids what are adult words and what words are kid words. And I have never heard a bad word come out of their mouth, ever. Honestly, can you blame the kid if he or she used it in the right context!?! I certainly wouldn’t. Haha!

Anyway, let’s talk about pregnant super moms…..

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Now I would love to say that I feel like this super mom….. ummmm I don’t. Not even close. Yes, growing a human is something I’m eternally grateful for but it doesn’t make it any less easy. I’m just not blessed to have easy pregnancies. I’m starting to accept that but you wouldn’t see me wearing anything close to this outside of my house. LOL!

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I pretty much feel like this! Seriously. I’m short and well nothing fits well – not even maternity clothes sometimes. #preggoproblems I would love to be able to take some maternity photos but the idea that I would look like this, I think not. Anyone else feel like this when they are pregnant?

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Then there are the whole pregnancy lies people share – you know the ones that we are share with each other to comfort one another. THIS ONE – I’m still waiting on the energy boost. I don’t know if it’s the whole pregnancy thing or the whole twin mom thing but TIRED is an understatement.

Regardless of the type of super mom you are or even if you don’t feel like a super mom, YOU ARE! If you manage to keep everyone, including yourself, happy, healthy and fed – I think you are doing a great job!

Now get those kids to bed, pour yourself a glass of wine (or two) and get ready for another day….

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Here’s to all the super moms,

Rachel